Random Talk & Chat

i now have a full-time permanent job after many years of temping and periods of unemployment.

my next mission is even harder than jobseeking now: that is, meeting women.

there's alot of gorgeous women at my workplace. some i have met at lunch but most of the talk's been introductory, about what we do, what we did before, etc. so its not like i am totally unable to talk to people. even now, am still meeting people and have made arrangements to see all depts and get to know what everyone does.

but i will admit my limitations - my social skills are simply not good, and would like to change this so that i can make friends and perhaps develop something special too with someone (still havent got over meeting that girl i met at my work last year, tbh). maybe i'm pushing it too fast? it should be said that alot of my day's taken up by work and commuting (two hours each way), so when back home i am tired from the travelling and sleep. no time for a social life at all so i like to change this as well. problem is i have no real friends to go out with. and given my lacking life experiences, not much to offer or talk about..plus, embarassingly, i don't really know how to socialise. i'm basically starting from scratch - this will especially be the case if practicality suggests i need to move out so i could enjoy less commuting periods and more time to socialise.

tips please on starting out in a new area/workplace, friendships, meeting women and building a social life. i have notice alot of my colleagues have their own social lives after work so its like everyone is involved in their own social circles, except me. while its good to work, its more satisfying to have friends, social life and life experiences (a lesson for me after thinking for years its all about careers etc). otherwise i'd just be existing.[/align]