Not for me

I have slowly drawn the conclusion that this forum & me are not the perfect fit. I returned for the fun & for one reason & another I'm not feeling it as I once did. It has always surprised me that I've been able to fit in, but you can't force it & rather than change I feel the best course of action is to limit my involvement. I'll see how it goes, but I expect by the middle of next year I'll have found a better balance.

I know that I've let myself down in the last few days, & have lost judgement of the intent & meaning of what others post & in turn how I react.
I can only apologise if I've overstepped the mark & offended anyone, in particular snooks. It would seem that having an opinion comes with baggage, & in the past few months I've been on the receiving end of some trash-talk & pathetic remarks, which when questioned are always denied. Having your posts scrutinized, dissected & picked over by vultures gets tiresome. In some cases these vultures don't even have a voice of their own. Undermining others is not a talent to be proud of.

I've always tried to take ownership of what & how I post, it's a pity some others don't do the same, instead of dropping bombs indiscriminately without a care where they might land & what effect they could have. Posting results in consequences.

In no way am I being driven away, I'm in control, if nothing else I'll be one less target. Alternatively, I may have become really paranoid & to a man you're all model citizens without reproach. I doubt I've got this completely wrong & it's somewhere in the middle.

Well, this is a damn shame Hope you find the equilibrium you're looking for. Failing that, eat tha puddin'

Ahhh Boomer .

Opinions are so much like arseholes.
Everyone's got one .
And indeed I know better than most I can often be one .

Let me first reiterate what I have said before.
I hold you in the highest esteem and respect. I genuinely mean that.
You care. That matters. Passionate strength of feeling is good.
Sometimes though things can go a bit wonkyfied and out of kilter where things get interpreted in unintended fashion.
I get that. There is always a fine balance to be struck with written posts as you yourself have eluded to before. It is something I had to learn too.
And guess what? I'm still learning .

This episode to me was a very simple difference of opinion on one specific subject. Nothing more. There is no point going in for a deep dive of all the semantics of it all. We all approach matters of opinion from different angles.
That is the joy of humanity in many ways.
Believe it or not I want what you want. Babes of the early years to have a chance of HOF induction. The debate is how that is to be achieved.
I don't claim to have all the answers as I'm sure you don't.

The whole thing got a little bogged down in issues of interpretation and that is so easily done. Unintended consequence and all.

SecretAgent was so right when he suggested me and you could probably sit in a pub and come up with some sort of solution between us that could still be open to pick fault with . And get pissed as farts in the process .

I have been really down all day reflecting on this matter.
I felt mortified that this debate ended up like it did. I felt such a sense of sadness. Because I care too. We both care.
That is far more of a good thing than bad.
Never lose sight of that.

I briefly thought of leaving the forum but thought better of it.
This place has been a real friend to me for so long. People like you are at the heart of the reason why.

So be proud of who you are and all you stand for. I will back your right and willingness to do so to the very end.

Because that is the very essence of the best in human spirit.

All the best.

Snooks.

Hope you are both ok and hope that u both will take 24 more hours to reflect mate. I was very surprised to see the reaction myself having been at work for much of yesterday.

Like snooks mate I have always respected your comments and feel it won't be the same without you offering your perspective on things.

Hope you will reconsider.

LB

What happened was inevitable, sadly Mr snooks you got a broadside that you didn't deserve. What has resurfaced personally is a long held view that people disappoint & let you down, it can be relied on. I don't come here to be belittled, make no mistake that was the intent, & you can tell by the pathetic denial. I don't want or expect support, I am my own man. Yet I lose respect when I see some thanking. I've seen the types before, showing off, cock swinging, always want the last word, arrogance. If it's just one doing it it's too many. But it's ok cos I'm being funny yeh right.

I like who I am. Do they like who they are.

Boomer you know how much I value your friendship. I respect your right to make whatever decision you choose. You stepped away from this place once before and came back and that option remains now as well. Maybe a time out will reinvigorate your desire to be here and you can come back refreshed. I know how sad I'll be to see you go particularly as losing a devoted Yorkshireman from the forum will make the missionary work we have undertaken on here so much harder

Who will Hornball debate the intricacies of County Cricket with?

If you do depart though I wish you well in all that you do and I'll keep a pint of Tetleys to hand in the hope we welcome you back at some point.

Last time I just quietly went away for 5 years or so for no particular reason. This feels/is different. I have a few obligations to fulfil which will keep me here in some capacity. Getting too involved will bring out my bad side. Experiences change us, I expect to be less likeable, I don't know how I feel about that, I should care, but I don't trust myself. I usually embrace the forum to the max as I believe the more you put in the more you get out, I don't really have the appetite for that at this point. I'll have to be content with the mundane stuff I guess. Despite my non-babe posts, I believe the babeshow aspect is an integral part of why I'm here. But in the main posting about babes is where the trouble lies. A case of see how it goes.

All the best for the future, wherever that takes you.

Life in itself is complicated mate, we all deal with it in our own way we just get that odd curveball from others we interact with in certain situations that we don't expect.

Your're a good bloke to be honest.

I've been here and disappeared a few times over the years.
Personal struggles , mental health issues, dealing with parents being gravely ill etc.
As time goes on there are many reasons why members here come and go.
We all try in our own way to cope and deal with problems that arise.
I've known a lot of people over the years that have left the forum for personal reasons.
Many have been very good friends and I miss them dearly.
Boomer is one of those people I count as a good friend.
What I will say is the door to the forum is always wide open for a friendly return to anyone who needs time out.
Sometimes you need time to yourself to collect your thoughts and realise you are not on your own.