Very true
I just didn't want to come across as "The Pot Calling the Kettle Black" type. If I find the behavior alarming, than something must be said.
I'm just a chatty viewer who spends on there.
I try to be respectful on there, I don't ask for anything without spending, but I don't tell others to spend on there either. It's entertainment, just enjoy yourself while watching. Sometimes the entertainment may be the chat, there is a lot of down time on Babestation, so my Chatty nature takes over. I have an odd sense of humor.
Mental illness what makes me consider myself in the "Delusional" category
I'm sure most of the viewers discussed are battling thru something
I'm not trying to insult them either, just trying to offer my insight as someone who has been in the belly of the beast of the addiction. Me opening up might help someone else out, so it's worth a shot.
I haven't conquered it yet, as I still do spend on the girls I like on there.
Also I've been a member on the forums for a while, this thread spoke to me. I had to throw in my two cents (I'm American)
(19-11-2023 23:19 )ukusagolf Wrote: [ -> ]Very true
I just didn't want to come across as "The Pot Calling the Kettle Black" type. If I find the behavior alarming, than something must be said.
I'm just a chatty viewer who spends on there.
I try to be respectful on there, I don't ask for anything without spending, but I don't tell others to spend on there either. It's entertainment, just enjoy yourself while watching. Sometimes the entertainment may be the chat, there is a lot of down time on Babestation, so my Chatty nature takes over. I have an odd sense of humor.
Mental illness what makes me consider myself in the "Delusional" category
I'm sure most of the viewers discussed are battling thru something
I'm not trying to insult them either, just trying to offer my insight as someone who has been in the belly of the beast of the addiction. Me opening up might help someone else out, so it's worth a shot.
I haven't conquered it yet, as I still do spend on the girls I like on there.
Also I've been a member on the forums for a while, this thread spoke to me. I had to throw in my two cents (I'm American)
And we are all glad you did!
I think you are right with regards to mental health. I would hazard a guess to say there are a few people struggling that use the channels and as a result, the babes l, as their only outlet where they feel they are not judged.
I can definitely understand that and I'll gladly offer support where needed
I've trained in a few mental health areas and would be more than happy to help those that need to chat.
No shame in spending on the girls at all, it's a form of entertainment after all, just don't let it become all consuming.
I agree the channels are just a bit of fun and escapism from the stresses of our professional and personal lives.
The live and interactive element of the shows is fresh and exciting, in comparison to porn that you've watched loads.
But some punters do take it a bit too far and get caught up in the fantasy, with the amount of time watching the channels and the money they spend on babes.
It can be as addictive as any other vice. I say that as a former addict. I got it under control without professional help.
But if any punters do need support, then there's lots of free and experienced assistance on the internet.
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Even free stuff like just liking and commenting on all their content on social media, or recording and capping their shows is OTT.
Interesting move Ryuken to insult all video posters and cappers on this forum. You might like to reconsider your statement
(20-11-2023 21:47 )SecretAgent Wrote: [ -> ]^
Even free stuff like just liking and commenting on all their content on social media, or recording and capping their shows is OTT.
Interesting move Ryuken to insult all video posters and cappers on this forum. You might like to reconsider your statement
Apologies, I didn't mean to offend. It was just how my journey into addiction started down a slippery slope. (EDIT - I'm not a tech genius, I haven't got a clue how to record or cap)
Thanks for pulling me up on it, you're a good bloke. I'll delete it.
(20-11-2023 22:46 )ryuken Wrote: [ -> ] (20-11-2023 21:47 )SecretAgent Wrote: [ -> ]^
Even free stuff like just liking and commenting on all their content on social media, or recording and capping their shows is OTT.
Interesting move Ryuken to insult all video posters and cappers on this forum. You might like to reconsider your statement
Apologies, I didn't mean to offend. It was just how my journey into addiction started down a slippery slope. (EDIT - I'm not a tech genius, I haven't got a clue how to record or cap)
Thanks for pulling me up on it, you're a good bloke. I'll delete it.
Well it's nice to know there are success stories .
I'm not fully over it, I still do watch and spend. Just a lot less than before.
Social Media does open the doors for communication, which for me was a big void in my life. They are "celebrities" so they probably don't want to deal with these types of "fans".
I started to notice I was falling more in the "Aggressive" side of deluded fan. I needed to make a change for my own sake. From seeing other arguments between performer and fan, I really didn't want to end up like that.
I've found other outlets to fill the void of communication, but I do like talking to other viewers. There is a lot of down time during the shows (that slate is burned into my brain at this point) so I try to interact during that .
Nice to see you on here UKUSA!!
I have to admit by sticking to the babes i like most & enjoy time with on BS is the easiest way for me. that way they know me better than most other babes would, and don't constantly ask me for tips & stuff.
Yet i find quite often, you'll get others in chat expecting 'something for nothing', but I do think most girls are pretty capable of dealing with them, I think sometimes when it does get out of hand, there is often the temptation to step in, but one wondrs if it's good or not.
That's why i spend time with Stormi, Darelle & Mikaela the most, I've pretty much almost stopped watching night shows, mainly because i'm too tired to watch.
(21-11-2023 11:59 )lovebabes56 Wrote: [ -> ]Nice to see you on here UKUSA!!
I have to admit by sticking to the babes i like most & enjoy time with on BS is the easiest way for me. that way they know me better than most other babes would, and don't constantly ask me for tips & stuff.
Yet i find quite often, you'll get others in chat expecting 'something for nothing', but I do think most girls are pretty capable of dealing with them, I think sometimes when it does get out of hand, there is often the temptation to step in, but one wondrs if it's good or not.
That's why i spend time with Stormi, Darelle & Mikaela the most, I've pretty much almost stopped watching night shows, mainly because i'm too tired to watch.
Nice to see you here as well
Due to my work hours, I watch mostly nights now. It's been better for the wallet and for some entertainment.
Sometimes it's better to be part of the unfamiliar. Trust me, I was watching way, way too much Babestation the last few years.
The arguments I'm talking about are more from the big tippers with the performer. They could feel a sense of entitlement since they spend a lot on there. As a paying viewer, I was getting caught up in it. My spending habits were "Medium" sized, so I was getting frustrated over getting very little for my efforts.
I'm also not what the girls on there prefer. I don't do enough Privates and Perve Cams, so my requests can go unnoticed at times. So I was leaving most shows feeling ashamed over spending and not enjoying my time on there.
After a while, it's not enjoyable watching someone and getting blown away by massive spenders.
It's a fantasy and the Girls are making a living. As long as I keep reminding myself of that fact, I should be okay. At the end of the day, I'm a Customer, I have the power not to spend
Well put UKUSA. I avoid the girls that have their big fan/spender with them all the time as well. It feels like it’s their older brother keeping an eye on you and your interaction with them, doesn’t make me comfortable.
It is incredibly easy to slip too far into addiction and spending. My problem isn’t, or hasn’t been, delusion, it’s chasing that connection and communication more than anything. There’s obviously a sexual element, these are incredibly beautiful women that you’re attracted to. But they’re also totally unattainable, and the thrill is getting that contact with someone I know is unattainable.
I was spending far too much on OnlyFans mainly with the babeshow girls. Customs, sexting etc. But there’s a few that are clearly outsourcing the running of their account now, and after a while it’s blatantly obvious who is there and who isn’t. And who you can rely on for a custom and who will string you along for 2 months. After a few bad experiences it’s made it a lot easier to step back, particularly with the girls who post more content for free on X than they do on their subbed pages on OF.
(21-11-2023 15:36 )Elemental3720 Wrote: [ -> ]Well put UKUSA. I avoid the girls that have their big fan/spender with them all the time as well. It feels like it’s their older brother keeping an eye on you and your interaction with them, doesn’t make me comfortable.
It is incredibly easy to slip too far into addiction and spending. My problem isn’t, or hasn’t been, delusion, it’s chasing that connection and communication more than anything. There’s obviously a sexual element, these are incredibly beautiful women that you’re attracted to. But they’re also totally unattainable, and the thrill is getting that contact with someone I know is unattainable.
I was spending far too much on OnlyFans mainly with the babeshow girls. Customs, sexting etc. But there’s a few that are clearly outsourcing the running of their account now, and after a while it’s blatantly obvious who is there and who isn’t. And who you can rely on for a custom and who will string you along for 2 months. After a few bad experiences it’s made it a lot easier to step back, particularly with the girls who post more content for free on X than they do on their subbed pages on OF.
Thanks
I think most of the viewers are people who want to reach out (you don't end up watching Babeshows because you are normal right?)
I try to interact with the performer and the viewers. My sort of interaction isn't for everyone so I've dialed it back. I will spend, but it's a show for everyone (well suppose to be), so I will keep my mouth shut when other viewers have a request, or want to say something. It's about enjoying ourselves on there.
Since I'm American, I know there is no chances of attaining them, but it does add a little bit of confidence talking and interacting with beautiful women (even if it's all entertainment) I try to maintain a distance from them away from the shows now, but the communication was nice.
OF is a slippery slope for the performer and fan. You do get some perks for being on there (some of the girls have been rather nice to me on there) It can be hard cutting off the access completely (I haven't yet)
During the shows it's tough, cause the big spender's goal is to dominate the show. They may be doing more behind the scenes that we don't know about, so I agree it's uncomfortable.
It's frustrating at times for me, because I will pay for a tip goal or make a request, but have to wait most of the time for a long private or perv cam to end. I usually do my spending before they arrive (after you watch the shows for a while, you know when you can and can't interact) yet still have to wait.
I'm not trying the knock the girls. They have a brand to promote and fanbase to cater to.
I'm just trying to be a cautionary tale of don't get wrapped up in PMs, or replies, it's really not worth it.