It would appear that, at times, some members seem to be unsure as to the meaning of some terms etc that are used on here
Hopefully, much like Gyles Brandreth, this can help with some of that
To start us off, here's a 5 letter word
Dictionary Corner Wrote:fo·rum (fôr'əm, fōr'-)
n. pl. fo·rums also fo·ra (fôr'ə, fōr'ə)
1.
- The public square or marketplace of an ancient Roman city that was the assembly place for judicial activity and public business.
- A public meeting place for open discussion.
- A medium for open discussion or voicing of ideas, such as a newspaper, a radio or television program, or a website.
2. A public meeting or presentation involving a discussion usually among experts and often including audience participation.
3. A court of law; a tribunal.
Dictionary Corner Wrote:A public meeting place for open discussion.
This seems particularly apt
Another 5 letter word, best used to describe the way that several members view a certain "Day to Night Girl"
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Deity:
de⋅i⋅ty [dee-i-tee]
–noun, plural -ties.
1. a god or goddess.
2. divine character or nature, esp. that of the Supreme Being; divinity.
3. the estate or rank of a god.
4. a person or thing revered as a god or goddess: a society in which money is the only deity.
5. the Deity, God; Supreme Being.
Origin:
1250–1300; ME deite < OF < LL deitāt- (s. of deitās), equiv. to L dei- (comb. form of deus god) + -tāt- -ty, formed after L dīvīnitās
(18-10-2009 17:39 )SxciiSooky Wrote: [ -> ][quote=Dictionary Corner]
dis·cus·sion (dĭ-skŭsh'ən)
However, when discussing a Deity, you should not
blaspheme:
Blasphemy
blas⋅phe⋅my [blas-fuh-mee]
–noun, plural -mies.
Blasphemy is the use of reference to one or more gods in a manner considered objectionable by a religious authority. It may include using sacred names as stress expletives without intention to pray or speak of sacred matters; it is also sometimes defined as language expressing disbelief or disapproved beliefs, or ridiculing religious figures or symbols.
1. impious utterance or action concerning God or
sacred things.
2. an act of cursing or reviling God.
3. Theology. the crime of assuming to oneself the rights or qualities of God.
4. irreverent behavior toward anything held sacred, priceless, etc.: He uttered blasphemies against life itself.
Origin:
1175–1225; ME blasphemie
Here's my 5 letter word
pussy /'pusi/
n. (
pl. -ies)
1 (also
pussy cat)
colloq. a cat.
2 coarse slang a the vulva.
b offens. women considered generally.
Sticking with the 5 letter theme
Dictionary Corner Wrote:kink·y (kĭng'kē)
adj. kink·i·er, kink·i·est
1. full of kinks; closely twisted: a kinky wire.
2. (of hair) closely or tightly curled.
3. Slang. marked by unconventional sexual preferences or behavior, as fetishism, sadomasochism, or the like.
- Showing or appealing to bizarre or deviant tastes, especially of a sexual or erotic nature: "his appetite for kinky filmmaking, unmitigated by any artistry" (John Simon).
- having to do with unconventional sexual acts or people who perform them. : She seems to have a morbid interest in kinky stuff.
I Apologise in Advance that this is not strictly a Dictionary definition, but I wasn't able to find one which said everything I wanted! Unfortunately, even though it's just seven letters long, it's the one thing we seek every day without fail in our lives and that is RESPECT - because it is tied up with our self-esteem and feeling of value. ''Respect" crops up in THIS Forum frequently and sometimes we talk about it a lot, we yearn for it, we expect it automatically and we notice when we haven't been given it by others. But this word is not really understood by many people.
For example, respect is demonstrated by our actions, not our words. And when those actions are absent, especially at a trivial or simple level, there is also a distinct lack of respect. In every relationship respect goes hand-in-hand with love and commitment. You cannot love someone you don't respect or are not prepared to commit to, even for a short time. Otherwise you will resent the time spent with them, or spent doing things on their behalf, when you could be doing something else or be with someone else. Neither can you love someone you really do not trust. Once trust is gone, the feelings become superficial as the relationship shifts in terms of both emotion and power. You would no longer respect that person, tending to be suspicious of their actions instead of celebrating and enjoying their presence.
The Six Dimensions of Respect
Often a lack of respect comes from a misunderstanding of the word. We throw around the word 'respect' very glibly, as a single cure-all for our feelings. But respect is not just one term. It carries six other dimensions within it:
1. curiosity 2. attention 3. dialogue 4. sensitivity 5. empowerment 6. healing
If we are not really demonstrating those six concepts in various ways, with regards to the one we say we respect, we are not showing them much respect at all.
Curiosity Respect starts with curiosity. We have an interest in that person. We want to know as much about them as possible, or at least a few key things to start with. In the dating process we engineer all kinds of opportunities to satisfy that curiosity and are often mortified when we get no response from our interest because are unable to fulfil our curiosity in any way and to give our attention. We feel frustrated, rejected and insignificant.
Attention If curiosity is satisfied, we move to give that person our full attention. Indeed, our curiosity grows too, because that person begins to assume value in our eyes. The amount of value will depend on the way they satisfy our curiosity and attention. If the information we get is weak, unappealing or non-reinforcing, we lose interest rapidly, our attention wanes and we move towards another. However, if we perceive that the new interest aligns with us and matches us in major ways, excitement and interest both quicken. We then lavish even more attention on that person, going out of our way to attract their attention and interest.
Dialogue Lots of attention inevitably leads to dialogue because that is the only way we can learn about our new interest. We communicate verbally as much as possible because we respect that person enough to want to hear what they have to say. We also take the greatest pleasure in conversing for its own sake. Hence much money will be spent on dates and phone calls, in particular. Where there is little respect, we are not in the least bit interested in that person and won't even talk to them. If there is also disrespect, for example, we made assumptions about them based upon their gender, colour, sexuality etc., we will go so far as to treat them negatively. We might have a dialogue at such times but it will express our anxieties, prejudices or anger, not our respect.
Sensitivity This is at the core of respect. Accepting the person as they are without wanting to change them to suit us; fully acknowledging their values, culture, identity and who they want to be; valuing their contributions, opinions and inputs and genuinely listening to them and sharing their concerns. These are all essential elements of showing sensitivity to the person they are, and wish to be. When we put ourself and our needs first, and can only see our values, cultures and opinions, we are lacking great sensitivity to those we care for and are actually denying them respect, no matter what we say to the contrary.
Empowerment Being curious about someone, giving our attention to, having a dialogue with, him or her, and being sensitive to their needs represent the greatest form of empowerment we can grant to another human being. It shows we value them greatly if we are willing to give them our attention and time, and also care about what they value. Anything else lacks respect. For example, if someone is trying to talk to you but you are busy playing on your computer, or talking to someone else on the phone, that shows little reciprocity for the respect they might be giving to you, or sensitivity to their presence and needs.
Healing Respect has the capacity to heal, especially when we have had past experiences that have been very hurtful or traumatic, so this last dimension is important. When we have had a bad time it is very affirming to be respected and valued by the new person we are attracted to, or the people we interact with, and it is effective in speeding up the healing process. For example, if someone felt really inadequate because her man went off with a younger, more beautiful woman, a new lover in her life demonstrating how wonderful she is would give her much-needed respect and reinforcement. This would heal her pain even quicker than if she had to overcome it by herself. Respect heals because it affirms and reinforces who we are and wish to be. It also puts past hurt into perspective, or even negates it, and restores our confidence.
Respect and trust can never be taken for granted. They are attributes that have to be proven. They are also directly reciprocal to the behaviour of others. For example, when we feel that we have had no respect from other people we care about, it is likely that we have given them very little respect ourselves. Most of us are sensitive to when we are not being treated with respect and are then unable to give any in its absence.
If you feel disrespected, what are you doing in the process? There is always a connection. You are either accepting substandard behaviour in order to gain approval, allowing yourself to be treated like a doormat, or you are not treating someone well enough. Once you sort out the root cause, mutual respect and trust are usually assured.
Altogether these six dimensions add up to the powerful concept of respect. When we show another human being that respect, we add an even greater experience to their life and perspectives while we too are empowered by its effects.
Thanks for reading this all - hopeful someone else might find something more concise!
To conclude, here's a quotation from Nelson Mandela on Freedom
"For to be free is not merely to cast off one’s chains, but to live in a way that respects and enhances the freedom of others.”
Erm, with due respect, Trevor, there's seven letters in RESPECT.
Oops! Thanks Rick, good spot! Amended! It was getting too late!
(19-10-2009 16:13 )rickhardo Wrote: [ -> ]Erm, with due respect, Trevor, there's seven letters in RESPECT.